Why de-escalation works

De-escalation can take many forms, from using conversation to put yourself “on the same side” as the other guy (with mirroring or some other humanizing technique – i.e. the opposite of Othering) to Shadow Dancing, to pre-emptive violence that prevents Read More …

The mental process that keeps you safe – it isn’t what you think it is

Right off the bat let’s just clarify, there are many parts to winning (vs. surviving or losing), everybody pays lip-service to knows things like situational awareness and boundary control (it’s just a pity so few people tell you WHAT to be Read More …