Women’s self defense needs are different from guys. So to help a girl out, we’re simplifying girls’ self defense needs. What’s the bare minimum of self defense weapons that a girl needs? What are they and why? And are they going to make her look fat if she carries them?
The male/female difference
Let’s face it, a guy will carry a different weapon for different threats. Guys love gadgets, so there’s the pepper spray if a dog attacks him. Then there’s the other pepper spray for if it’s specifically a doberman. And the 3rd spray in case he gets attacked by a German Shepard. And there’s the spare mag with the shotshells loaded in case there’s a snake. Oh yes, and the other mags must have hollowpoints in case of attack by actual human.
Girls and gadgets? Not so much.
Girls may need 4 different sets of makeup (daytime vs nighttime and indoors vs outdoors), but if they’re going to carry a weapon they want simplicity. And this is a good thing. Imagine a girl trying to decide on what weapon to use the same way she decides what dress to buy.
A girl’s first weapon
In part 1 we covered a girl’s first weapon. The first weapon is the weapon of uncertainty. It isn’t always obvious that a situation is going to turn out violent, so the first weapon covers those I’m-not-100%-sure occasions.
The second weapon however is for times when you know, without a doubt, that bad shit is about to happen to you.
How do you know for sure
3 migrants are dragging you into an empty building. You know for sure.
Your date just punched you in the face and is furiously trying to rip the pants off you. You know for sure.
If you know for sure that you’re in danger, then you probably need a weapon. And you probably need it fast. Preferably a weapon that can stop an attack really fast too.
And so, a girl’s second weapon needs to be …
The knife is slim, lightweight, and easily concealed. Even on a girl. It’s not heavy or chunky like a pistol.
The knife can be fast to draw and even faster to use. And the knife can cause a tremendous amount of damage in a really short amount of time. And yes, even if it’s “just” a small blade.
Watch this video to see what a tiny knife can do:
Bonus points of a knife
If you aren’t convinced yet, remember that a knife is also a fraction of the cost of a pistol. And if you have any legal difficulties in getting a pistol, it’s usually much easier to get a knife.
Some people won’t be willing to carry a pistol on campus (possibly breaking rules), but a knife is much more :socially acceptable”. Easy to conceal, easy to drop in a bin, easy to deny, cheap to replace. (That said – don’t let anybody find out what you carry. Concealed means concealed.)
And if you’re still not convinced, here’s some more of what even a tiny knife can do (let’s face it, bad situations often require drastic measures):
The certainty/uncertainty divide
There are Bad Guys out there. They do rape, they do torture, they do murder.
Fortunately there are many indicators that a stranger is a Threat.
There are also many indicators that someone you know is a Threat.
Heck, there are even some generalized profiles of acquaintance rapists.
So you can often tell someone is a BG way before any violence happens. But the most difficult part about identifying a Bad Guy before he hurts you is not knowing that he’s a BG, it’s not bullshitting yourself.
Many a woman has ended up being raped or killed because she explained away a warning signal. She chose to ignore the danger signal because it was easier to tell herself a pretty lie than face the truth.
One of the reasons this happens is because she’s not quite sure that the situation is turning bad. If the Bad Guy is subtle then he can create doubt in the victim’s mind. Then the victim bullshits herself. “I’m just overreacting. It’s not like he’s going to hurt me or anything.”
For example, 2 ways a BG can create doubt are
Mimicking normal behaviour up until they have control of the situation
They build up to the violence in slow-motion
So to make you safer we have a little test to help you remove doubt from your mind.
The “gain certainty” test
Can you leave?
That’s it. Try leaving.
If you can leave, then great, you’re out of the situation.
If you can’t leave then trouble is brewing.
Leaving forces a BG to decide between letting you go (hooray) or dropping his strategy. Either he has to stop mimicking normal behaviour, or he has to fast-forward the build-up to violence.
Does he grab you to keep you in the car (stops imitating “normal”)? Are a couple other guys blocking the only doorway out the room (build-up to violence is faster)? Does he just outright turn violent?
If you manage to remove any doubt that bad shit is about to happen, then prepare for violence.
And if you’re still not sure, then it’s a good thing you have your weapon of uncertainty on you.