Sometimes something is effective, but unpopular. Like giving kids cough medicine. Or giving up chocolate to help lose fat. This one will be unpopular with Social Justice Cupcakes because they will be offended by it. But if they were offended by gravity it still wouldn’t stop the gravity.
Basic principles: You can’t fight something unless you understand it (at least, you can’t win except by accident and without knowing how you did it).
Basic principles: You can bitch and moan and support social initiatives to change the ways of a man-eating lion. Or you can take steps to protect yourself against the lion. Is it blaming the victim to expect them to stop trying to cuddle a known man-eating lion? I don’t know. I don’t care. Just stay away from the lion people.
Ending the abuse of women at the hands of men is a straightforward affair. There are 2 steps.
Step 1. Everybody reads Theodore Dalrymple’s incredible article. This article has the rare and magical property of cutting through the bullshit. It WILL inoculate a lot of women against the processes that allow abuse to happen and continue. This will stop a lot of women getting abused.
No really, go and read the thing. Like Carl Jung said “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” This applies to domestic abuse. Oh boy does it apply.
Step 2. Anybody who wasn’t inoculated will (hopefully) get slapped into reality by their friends who were immunised.
Know any friends with asshole boyfriends you think may be hitting them (or know they are)? Send them this article to read. But only only if you, you know, actually care about them.
There are other ways to end abusive relationships of course. But if someone is caught “in the cycle” and can’t muster the wherewithal to walk away, then the other solution probably won’t happen either.